Adam, Jerry and I were the only ones at Discussion Group last night. I probably didn’t even have to say it out loud, but I suggested, to instant and unanimous laughter and agreement that we go to Taco Bell.
The discussion was actually really good, and went on some tangents, but was originally (and for the most part stayed) about the inerrancy of Scripture.
But, like so many times lately, it wasn’t the discussion or anything else revolving our entire purpose that stuck with me the most from last night. It was the guy that knocked on the glass window next to us and then came inside to talk to us.
It was pretty easy to tell he was going to ask for money as he came up. He was a really good-natured guy, and hilariously creative at that. But you could smell the booze on his breath, and though I could continue, I’ll stop the description of the assault on our senses right there.
Long story short, we chatted with him for a minute (we had to, he sat down in the empty space on the booth next to me, so I was trapped) and eventually got across to him that we didn’t have (or weren’t willing to give, in my case) any money to him and he got up and headed to the bathroom. The three of us had long been finished with our food and had already said our closing prayer, so the second the bathroom door closed behind him, Adam caught my eye with a look that said “Let’s go,” and our trio was out the door and in the van much faster than anyone that full of tacos should be able to move.
I started talking about this on the way back to church with them, and have since continued to contemplate it. It reminds me a little bit of Billy’s story, after reading about us finding the man who had been mugged on the street in Quito. He drove past a guy sleeping outside the old library on Main Street. Wondering if the guy needed help, he threw the truck in reverse, stopped in front of the library, rolled down his window and said “Hey, man, do you need some help?” The figure rolled over and said “Leave me alone, you son of a *****, can’t you see I’m drunk?!” Billy just laughed and drove off, but I doubt he’ll stop again anytime soon to ask someone apparently sleeping on the street if they need help.
Granted, the kinds of situations where people seem to be in need or ask for help are much different in the United States than they are in a developing country. But how easy it is to be discouraged from helping people at all.
I am not going to give money to somebody who I know will spend it on alcohol (though I wonder a little bit about that upon further consideration- he did smell like alcohol, but we were inside a restaurant and I could have offered him a taco to see what he’d say). And I’m actually pretty sure this particular guy has asked me for money before. And his language left much to be desired. But I still have pretty much no excuse except my own discomfort for not asking about who he is, finding out some of his story, and at least giving him an ear and maybe a little bit of the Gospel (which I feared would piss him off, but have since decided that he’d be better off pissed than not hearing it).
